A brother said a girl in their company, like her for a long time.

One Saturday shift, she encountered traffic jams, can not come back on time, I live near the company, call me for her, and said to invite me to dinner, I agreed.

Two days ago I asked her if she wanted to invite me to dinner tonight.

She said she just went on a trip and now she doesn't have much money.

I said it's okay, wait until the end of the month when I get my paycheck.

She said yes and asked me what I wanted to eat.

The question is, what should I ask her to treat me to?

And usually when she asks me for help, I agree quickly and often, will I be sent a good guy card or a spare tire like this?

What do you think should be done in the above situation, and what do you think?

You can be good to the girl, but not unconditionally good to the girl, this is to ensure that the relationship before an unspoken rule.

Unconditionally good to her, there will be a one-way "investment", you continue to increase the "investment", she will get used to your payment, take it for granted, will not be grateful to you.

Know how the spare tire is raised?

It is because the boys are set in stone to please behavior, let her feel that he is in control of, at the beck and call of the people, over time, she did not feel him, often hang him out to dry on the side and not good, because he is really good, can be at the beck and call of the people, so they will hang on to him, usually accompanied by a smile, together with a meal or something else, want to go further on the difficult, and finally the boys in a dilemma, to be a spare tire.

She let you for her, you let her ask you to eat, this is very good behavior, both can be more with her to get along with the opportunity, but also can let her inner know, you are not a request, this is a good way to avoid entering the female spare tire area. As for the final meal, you can totally sneak the bill, which is also fine, it's a totally different effect than a direct treat, feel it for yourself.

You must remember that these little solicitations in return are used to create opportunities to spend time alone, great opportunities to advance your relationship, and this is an opportunity to take advantage of, and one opportunity can extend to many.

For example:

She invited to dinner, about the weekend, after dinner, you can say take her to sit somewhere else, step on the road, the river walk, or watch a movie, as far as possible to establish an emotional connection, enhance the sense of familiarity, to continue to elevate your relationship.

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