Man is like a lonely traveler, we are all looking for the one who understands us, and learning to listen can make him feel that you are the one who understands him.

Holy Light

Fortuna magazine once published a survey of wives of company employees. They quoted a psychologist who said, "One of the most important things a man's wife can do is to let her husband tell her all the woes he can't get out of the office." Wives who can fulfill this duty have been given the titles of "tranquilizer," "wall against crying," "empathizer," and "gas station. and "gas station. The survey also pointed out that men need gentle, active listening, not advice. In fact, the most common scenario is this.

The husband comes home, comes up for air and says, "Oh my God! Honey, today is a day to celebrate! I've been called in to the board meeting to report on the regional report I did. They still want to hear from me, and ......"

"Really?" The wife said absentmindedly, not looking at all attentive, "That's great. Honey, come on! Have some of the beef in sauce I just made! By the way, did I tell you that I had someone come to fix the sewer this morning? The guy said there are some places that should be replaced with broken ones. Why don't you go take a look at it after you eat?"

"Sure thing, baby. Oh, and like I said earlier, the board took my advice. Seriously, I was really a little nervous at first, but I finally realized I had their attention ...."

Wife interjected, "I often think they don't know you or value you. Hey, by the way, you have to talk to your son about his studies, his grades this semester have been abysmal. His homeroom teacher said that if his son is willing to work hard, he can definitely study better. There is really nothing I can do about his study problems now."

It was only at this point that the husband realized that he had completely lost the battle for the right to speak. So he had no choice but to helplessly swallow his complacency along with the beef in the sauce, and then solve the problems concerning the sewers and his son's education.

Scenery of Yangmeikeng, Dapeng, Longgang, Eastern Shenzhen

Is his wife really so selfish that she only cares about her own problems? Of course not, in fact, she and her husband the same, also want to find a listener to talk about it, only that she put the self-talking time is wrong. In fact, she just needs to patiently listen to her husband's success on the board of directors, and after he has finished venting his excitement, she can talk to him about family matters.

Anyone in the workplace has felt this way: after work, if there is someone at home who is willing to listen to you talk about the events of the day, whether good or bad, it will make you feel less lonely. Because, in the office, there is often no opportunity to express an opinion about what happened. If things are going exceptionally well, we can't be there to sing our praises; and if we hit a snag, the best coworkers don't want to hear you talk about the trouble; they've got enough of their own to worry about. So when we come home after a hard day's work, we often feel the urgency to get it off our chests.

A partner who is a good listener can give their significant other the greatest comfort.

Mak

A wife with high emotional intelligence will listen to her husband with concern and recognize his difficulties when he encounters business troubles, with a straight face.

Instead of complaining that her husband is not careful, love to take risks or directly avoid talking about the relevant issues. In fact, when a husband talks to his wife about his problems at work, he does not expect her to give him advice, but just wants to find someone to talk about his inner pressure. If the wife can listen patiently with ears and heart, it is undoubtedly the greatest comfort and encouragement to the husband.

High IQ husband in his wife by the trivial things of life and the pressure of the workplace to get physically and mentally exhausted, willing to sacrifice to watch football matches or meaningless socializing time to listen to his wife spit a bitter, then the wife will not feel that no one sympathetic, the heart of the repressed emotions out, the mood will naturally be a lot better, so that there will not always be endless complaining, and thus the relationship between husband and wife will also become more profound.

Couples get along not by IQ but by emotional intelligence. Even if you won't use sweet words to make each other happy, patiently listening to each other is also a way to convey your feelings, or even a more intimate way.