Most people are born not knowing how to pick up women, some people can observe and learn from the environment, some people have never been able to get the door, in fact, in this, we need to understand what is "desire".

After studying psychology and behavior, I can only conclude that most of our desires, intentions, preferences, strengths, weaknesses, behaviors, and personality traits are determined by our DNA and our social attributes. Here I am referring to both males and females.

Whether a person likes adventure or likes to sit comfortably on the couch is largely determined at the time of his/her birth.

In any case, they are all interested in something in common - most women have some obvious interests, needs, desires (and like men, desires!) , relationships, and romances.

Have you tried to understand their personalities? Have you noticed how many women say things like, "The princess is looking for her prince," "Friends first," and "Looking for my soul mate for life," and how few men say the same thing? men ever say the same thing?

What else?

Have you ever overheard a group of women discussing men? Did you ever listen to a group of women discussing men and think that they were communicating in some sort of secret language and always talking over small, insignificant details?

Have you ever noticed that when men discuss women together, they are direct in their thoughts, and never spend time talking about small things?

What else?

Have you ever noticed how many women are tightly drawn to the plot when they watch a play?

My point to all of the above is that women's personalities haven't changed in nearly a thousand (nearly ten thousand) years. Only the outward language and dress have changed, while their hearts have remained the same for ages.

Many parts of the human brain produce various desires. And these desires are in conflict with each other.

For example, a woman wants the company of a man who needs security in his life, but she equally wants a sense of independence. A woman wants attention, but pretends she doesn't care about it. (Men likewise have conflicting desires, just in some other way.)

So, when I hear men say, "I hate those dramas that women write. Why do they write such dramas?"

My answer is that drama will accomplish many goals at once. It will get the attention of the masses, it conveys emotion to people (emotion is an addictive drug), it's a way of realizing self-worth, it's also funny while avoiding boredom, it makes something more meaningful, and so on. These are the things that make people want to write and direct theater. But men can't understand it because theater expresses things that men don't care about.

It's like women like to say, "I hate it when the only topic a man is good at is sports." So what needs do sports fulfill for men? Competition, adrenaline, power, domination ...... all typically male things. Things that express male needs that women are in no way interested in.

Maybe see here, you are a little bit understand why even if you are good to her, but always not her heart? The reason is to understand the "desire".